How To Behave When Dating For Sex

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Casual sex can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience for all parties involved - but it can also go very, very wrong. Men in particular often make a few crucial mistakes when trying to date in this way, and they're mistakes that everyone would probably be happier without. That's why this quick guide exists - to help people (primarily men who are hoping to date women, though everyone should be following this advice) understand what kinds of behaviours and attitudes will result in a fantastic date and which can kill the passion stone dead.

Remember That Your Date Is A Person Too

The people you meet to have these dates with are real human beings, with likes and dislikes and emotions and feelings and preferences - and they are worthy of respect. Even if you each plan on never seeing the other again and all that either of you want to do is hook up, it's important that you respect them as a person while you're doing it. Dehumanising your dates and thinking of them as nothing more than sex objects isn't going to help anything.

Of course, this doesn't mean that you need to sit around talking for ages - going straight into the action is more than acceptable if that's what you both want. It's just important to keep in the back of your mind that this is a real person with a real life and that you'll need to respect that.

Always Respect Their Boundaries

Picture the scene: you've met a woman online, chatted a few times, and agreed to meet up. She's been clear that she wants the two of you to have sex, and you're all ready to go. When you get there, though, she seems reticent; she's clearly changed her mind, and she doesn't want to have sex with you after all. Or maybe she does, but she doesn't want to go down on you or do something else that you'd been hoping would happen. How do you react?

There is only one right answer to this: you stop, and you're friendly and okay with it. Trying to guilt-trip, pressure, pester or irritate someone into having sex with you because you feel like you are in some way entitled to it or that they owe it to you is never okay.

Make Sure You're Both One The Same Page

Mismatched expectations can ruin good casual sex, so it's important that before you meet up with someone you know you both want the same thing - be that a one-off encounter, a potentially ongoing friends with benefits arrangement or anything else. You don't need to define anything absolutely, but if they're looking for a couple of hours in bed with a total stranger and you're hoping they'll turn out to be your soulmate then there's probably going to be a problem!

Have Fun!

Assuming that you remain respectful, practice safe sex and treat everyone well, this can be a fulfilling experience for all involved. It certainly livens up what might otherwise have been a very dull evening!

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