What to write in your adult dating profile
Unless you have tried it before describing yourself can be a bit daunting; even if you have taken the plunge then you will know that it is all too easy to tie your brain in knots, trying to put across what you want to say, in the way that you want the reader to understand it. With verbal communication words only make up 5 per cent of the information being put across; tone of voice, body language and facial expression does the rest; online, words have to work harder.
See what others have written
Do a bit of research and see what other people are writing about themselves. As you read through, can you pick up who are the newcomers and who are the regulars, and which of these would you like to be seen as? Is everyone using straight language about what they want or is it more tongue in cheek; using different phraseology or acronyms.
Look at yourself as a marketing exercise; make a list of your strong points that are going to make you attractive to others, these are the areas that you can comfortably focus on. When someone chooses you they are buying into the idea that you are going to give them a good time and make them feel good about themselves, you are that make of car or holiday destination that everyone wants to aspire to. Then have a look at your negative side, the areas that you might not want to draw attention to. When did you ever see an alcohol commercial that showed you the hangover the next day, or a restaurant full of fat people?
Act the part
Deep down most of us would like to improve certain aspects of our characters; dating is the ideal opportunity to do that. Whoever you describe in your profile, make sure that that is the person that turns up. Give yourself a bit of a polish, notch the confidence level up a bit, think of the movie star you admire most and put some of that into your description; and enjoy being the new you on the date.
Interests and descriptions
This is where you can really make your profile count, or kill it stone dead. People using hook up sites are after some fun, they want to find out about your personality, real or invented. To go back to the marketing analogy, this is where you need to convince prospective partners that choosing you is going to brighten up their lives, give them something good to remember, and to smile about afterwards.
While reality can be stretched a little way you do not want to set yourself up to get instantly caught out, as that will make sure that any real life meeting ends a lot earlier than you had hoped. Speaking foreign languages or bare back horse riding might make you sound exotic and interesting but could quickly leave you embarrassed if your bluff gets called, and then that is the rest of your credibility out the door at the same time.
So, do the research, and make yourself sound like the sort of person who is going to make sure everyone has a good time; which is what you are going to do, right?
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